The Mystery School of Manifestation

Transformative Manifestation: Mining the Gold in Your Shadow Self for True Prosperity

Debb Cobb Season 1 Episode 4

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Ever wondered why traditional manifestation techniques sometimes hit a wall? Join me, Debb Cobb, as I unravel my journey from a struggling single mom to a thriving online entrepreneur, with a deep dive into shadow work. By confronting the darker aspects of our psyche, we can bring unconscious fears and insecurities to light and overcome them. This episode promises to guide you through the transformative "dark night of the soul" and help you align with your true self for a more fulfilling life.

We go beyond the typical manifestation advice, exploring how merely controlling thoughts isn't the ultimate key. Instead, by recognizing that we are the observers of our thoughts and emotions, we can embody love, abundance, and peace, naturally attracting these qualities into our lives. Drawing wisdom from the Bible and insights from thought leaders like Deepak Chopra and Michael Singer, we emphasize awakening to your true animating energy rather than getting caught up in superficial techniques.

True abundance isn’t about material wealth but about consciousness and self-worth. Sharing my personal experiences, I highlight the dangers of manifesting from a place of ego and attachment, which often leads to perpetual dissatisfaction. By embodying positive qualities and letting go of societal expectations, you can manifest a life of genuine abundance and freedom. Join me as we reinterpret age-old stories like Adam and Eve to uncover deeper truths about consciousness and self-awareness.

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If 2024 hasn't exactly turned out the way that you envisioned that it would, or the ways in which you used to manifest or sell in your business have just stopped working. You're not alone. This episode is for you. Stay tuned. Welcome to the Mystery School of Manifestation, where we cannot stop talking about the connection between all things, physical and metaphysical, and the magic of manifestation. My name is Deb Cobb and I'm obsessed with teaching you how to be in the world, but not of the world, so you can consciously co-create a life and business that defies the odds, regardless of what you've created up to this point. I'm just a small town girl from rural Indiana who started my spiritual journey as a poor, single mom, once high school dropout, barely able to make ends meet, but through my connection with the super conscious, I've been able to build a successful online business from the ground up, without following the rules or sleazy sales tactics. I was even able to send my daughter to the Ivy Leagues. Now our story is raw and unfiltered, and I'm more than a little controversial, so be warned if you're easily offended or have children in the room while you listen. That said, if you're ready to step fully into your version of heaven on earth. While you can still enjoy it in the physical buckle up, grab your tissues and your journal and let's get started. Welcome to this episode of the Mystery School of Manifestation. I am so honored that you decided to join us today.

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Now for the next several episodes. I'm going to be diving deeper into the dark side of manifestation, and what I mean by that isn't necessarily what you might think. When I'm speaking about dark, I'm speaking about the shadow. You may have heard of shadow work, and, contrary to popular belief, shadow work isn't about glorifying in the underbelly of things that society does not accept. It is not about coming from the ego. It is about shining light on the things that you are not currently aware of, that are holding you back. These are doubts, fears, insecurities, memories that you have repressed or your brain has essentially protected you from, because you were not ready to deal with those quite yet. And I will be telling you several stories that are raw, unfiltered and may trigger some people, and so I want to lead with a disclaimer who the next several podcast episodes are for?

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These episodes are for those of you who are feeling like something is missing, but you can't quite put your finger on it. There's something that feels like it's out of alignment, whether that is showing up in your life, in the physical things that have stopped working the way that they used to. Sales have stopped coming in in your business, the feeling of not being fulfilled. The things that used to make you feel joy aren't making you feel that anymore. This is for those of you who are seeking more, who want to go a bit deeper, into the spiritual side, into the inner work.

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What I'm going to be sharing with you can be controversial. These are my opinions, these are my understandings and this is my experience. That is all I can teach from right now. I'm not a licensed anything. I'm not a licensed mental health professional. I will be speaking about my own challenges and triumphs with mental health. So all of that to say, please use your discernment. If you're feeling triggered or you find yourself arguing right with what I'm saying, if it's not resonating, then perhaps this episode isn't for you. So, all of that said, I'm going to be speaking about the dark night of the soul.

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That is a time when you are feeling uncertain, lost, a crisis of faith. But what Carl Jung would say is that which we do not bring into consciousness controls us, and that is what diving into the shadow is all about. It's about freeing yourself from things that are holding you back. Now I want to speak about what manifestation is and what it is not, what the spiritual art of sales is and what it is not, because they're very intimately connected, and then I'm going to be telling you the story of this year. For me, and essentially for lack of a better way to say it 2024 has been a shit show, and it is the exact opposite of where I thought I would be.

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Right now, given that I started this journey back in January, I set out to manifest my version of heaven on earth reality and mistakenly thought that I had already gone through hell, but, as is so often the case in my life, the universe laughed right. You think you've gone through hell? Well, you just hang on, because we're about to show you what that actually means. If you are in it right now, it can end just as quickly as it began, and the entire purpose of the next few episodes is to help guide you through that process, to feeling in alignment with who you really are, with feeling the sense of peace that surpasses all understanding, to show you who you truly are, so that you can avoid going through the shit show. And I'm also going to be taking off my mask.

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I'm going to be sharing things with you that I have never spoken about publicly. Many people in my own family don't know, so all I have to say I want to read a quick poem to remind myself and give myself the courage to share these things with you. And something that has helped me through many dark times and to be authentic is to really truly open yourself up and allow for unconditional love to come through. Right, because if you're not being authentic, if you're not being yourself warts and all, as the quote goes, then you cannot receive unconditional love. Okay, and so this poem is called, not in Vain, by Emily Dickinson If I can stop one heart from breaking, I shall not live in vain. If I can ease one life, the aching or cool one pain, or help one fainting robin unto his nest again, I shall not live in vain. And so it is with that spirit that I will begin.

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So what manifestation is and is not? Oftentimes, when people think of manifestation, they think of the law of attraction, they think of more woo practices, right, and there's no judgment here, for lack of a better way to describe it. I don't love calling something woo because it has a negative connotation to it, but, again, for lack of a better way to explain it, oftentimes people think of these practices that they poo-poo at right. That is wishful thinking, that's delusional thinking, and I'm here to tell you everything is delusional thinking from one perspective or another. Right, it depends on where you're standing. So all of that to say my perspective and how I teach manifestation is the complete opposite of the way that it is traditionally understood or taught. It's who you are being, which is exactly how I have taught sales for the past eight years. This is exactly why my clients and students see the results that they do, because we're not trying to fake strategy. We're not trying to memorize sales tactics. I teach the strategy right.

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However, it's about going within and doing the inner work, because when you do the inner work to heal those things that are holding you back, then the things that are holding you back dissolve right. And so when I work with somebody, when I coach someone in sales, we are always addressing what is going on beneath the surface and, in one way or another, there is always a worthiness wound that comes up, some form of I am not good enough, right? Some form of self-judgment or some form of fear that is holding them back. And so if it were about just the words that we're using, if it were about just the things that we're doing, then the same strategy would work for everyone, right? And it doesn't. We know that. And so it is about going within and doing the spiritual work.

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Now, when I say spiritual, I want to explain what I mean Energy that animates. For lack of the time and energy and expertise to really go and describe and explain all of this from a more technical standpoint. Technical standpoint essentially, our consciousness, in my belief, is electricity, or a form of energy that is conscious of itself. It is not limited to the physical structure in which it resides, and it is also not thoughts and emotions. Okay, so this is really important to understand, because so often people think that manifestation is controlling their thoughts or controlling their emotions in order to get something that they think that they need or want, and there's nothing wrong with focusing on changing our thoughts or emotions. I think that that's really important.

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However, those are very shallow forms of manifestation and I don't say that from a place of judgment. It's just like anything else. Right, when you're learning to swim, you typically don't just go dive into the deep end, you don't just go jump into the lake or the ocean. Right, you've got to start somewhere, and starting somewhere may mean working on those things. But if your traditional ways of manifesting or selling have stopped working, it's because it's time to go deeper. And that's what this is all about. That's what the Mystery School of Manifestation is all about.

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It's about understanding that you are something beyond your thoughts and your emotions. So if you're manifesting from the mind, you are going in and you're trying to change your thoughts to align with abundance, and that can be a very difficult thing to do. It can work and it will work in the beginning. But again, just like anything else, let's say you're working out. When you begin working out, you're going to get rapid results because you haven't worked out for a long time. But there's going to come a point where you're going to plateau and then the little, tiniest, little pivots are going to be the only things that are going to make a difference, because you don't need to do the basic movements anymore. You've already mastered those. So manifesting from your mind and trying to control your thoughts is working on the symptoms or the external things, and it's not going to provide you with fulfillment or consistency. Okay, now.

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Next is manifesting from the body right, or the heart that is manifesting from a place of. I need to control my emotions in order to attract something that aligns with those emotions right, in order to attract something that aligns with those emotions right. Oftentimes, the pitfall of this method is that you can blame yourself and take on guilt and shame and judgment, or you can repress the very things that, if you face them and heal them, will set you free. That is the fastest way to spiritual bypassing and that is just avoiding the lesson that is coming up, so that you can step more fully into who you truly are, which is not your thoughts, because and I'll disagree with the famous philosopher Descartes I think. Therefore, I am, but if you can think about your thoughts, you're not your thoughts. Therefore, I am, but if you can think about your thoughts, you're not your thoughts, and there's a fantastic book, michael Singer wrote about this. If you're wanting to dive deeper into that concept, the Untethered Soul, I highly recommend it.

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But that said, for now, if you can think about your thoughts, you're not your thoughts, and if you can feel or think about your emotions. You are not your emotions, right, you are the observer of these things. Now, I'm not going to try and answer the question of who that observer is. I'll just say it is the I am. That's why it's so powerful what you say after I am, and diving into manifesting spirit, which I speak about a lot and teach about a lot, versus manifesting stuff.

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Manifesting spirit is about awakening to be in the world, but not of the world. This is about embodiment. Manifestation, if you look it up in the dictionary, is literally the embodiment of an abstract principle or theory. When you embody the principle of love, abundance, joy, peace, you will attract those things. You will not have to force, you will not have to work hard on the external. The work is within, okay. The work is going within and awakening to the fact that you are the energy that animates your body. Your body is a temple.

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Right, and I will be speaking about things that I have, up to today, been hesitant to speak about because, to be quite frank, I was terrified that the church, the Vatican, was going to come for me, because these things are going to somewhat contradict what is being taught. And again, please use your discernment. I'm not here to tell you what to believe. I am not your authority, you are right. That said, I will be teaching about the more spiritual understanding that I have of many teachings that are understood in a different way in the masses, right? So all that to say, your body is a temple. It is basically a house for spirit, the animating energy that lives inside of you, and this is very important to really truly get, because, just like anything else, you can move in and out of a house.

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Right, and that is where I'm afraid that some people are going to come for me. Am I saying that you can be possessed? Yes, yes, I am, but not in the same way that was understood several hundred years ago, and I'm not about bringing pitchforks and living in fear, okay. However, I think it's very, very important to recognize that you are energy, spirit, conscious of itself, and you, if you are not awake and aware, you can become a slave to your thoughts or your emotions if you mistakenly over-identify with them, and if you do that, then you are controlled by these things that you are not, which is a concept that Deepak Chopra speaks about in the Book of Secrets, and I love the way that he explains it, your brain is essentially the prison prisoner and prison guard at the same time. It is the slightest shift in perspective that will set you free, and it's very simple.

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So, again, I'm going to speak about several teachings from the Bible and Christ ministry, the way that I understand them, and this may trigger some people, but it is what it is. So when Jesus spoke about who we are and what we are capable of doing, he would often say that we are capable of working miracles in the same way that he is are capable of working miracles in the same way that he is or he was. He also said that you cannot worship two masters. The way that I understand that is you cannot worship or give your power to the physical. You can only give your power to one thing at a time. Okay, so giving your power to the physical looks like thinking that you need to change your thoughts or your emotions in order to attract so all of that.

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To say this is about knowing who you are and aligning with embodying the energy that you wish to be. The only way that we can do that is to come into contact with things that are going to shake us right at our core. That's the dark night of the soul. So I alluded to my life being a shit show in 2024. And again, I had mistakenly thought, okay, I've been through hell. Right, I have been through many lifetimes of traumatic events in this life and had things fall apart and had to rebuild, and I thought, okay, I've done it, I've made it. Now I'm going to teach it and I am going to co-create my version of heaven on earth reality.

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But what I didn't allow myself to remember probably because I wouldn't have had the courage to do it is that we have to surrender and let go of things that we think that we need and or want in order to free ourselves from being controlled by those things. So if you're manifesting from ego right, from attachment, you are giving your power to external things, and those things we know don't make us happy. It will put you on a hamster wheel of manifestation, of continuously thinking if I have this thing, if I get this thing, then I'll be happy. I have this thing, if I get this thing, then I'll be happy. But, as I've alluded to and spoken about in previous episodes, one of the highest rates of suicide is among the most affluent group of people. Now why is that? They seem to have the things. They should be happy. But it doesn't matter how much you have.

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Abundance isn't about the number in your bank account. As a matter of fact, my most materially abundant, my best month in business ever, I made the same amount in one month that I had the entire year when I was working in advertising and I was miserable. I was miserable, I was working all the time, I was a hot mess and I was still in such a poverty consciousness that when I went to see Alethea, I took her to New York. This was right before she started at Columbia. When I took her there we were moving in I felt like I needed to rent the most inexpensive Airbnb that I could. Even though I had literally multiple, five figures, many multiple five figures in my bank account, I still rented the most inexpensive Airbnb in one of the roughest neighborhoods and it was terrifying. And I thought to myself several years later why would I do that? Right, because it's about the level of consciousness that I was at.

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Okay, so consciousness is very important. It is actually, I believe, the most important thing with regard to creating a life and business and career and relationship that we love it is. Who are we being, not what we're doing and not what we're thinking and not what we're feeling. That matters more than anything else. We cannot fake energy, right? You cannot fake that. We have evolved too far as a species to be deceived by energy, that it is, or someone who's taking right that energy. We know it, we can sense it. We may choose to ignore our intuition, right, but unless you are a sociopath, right, you cannot fake it either.

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I know there's this whole idea about faking it till we make it, and I understand that to a certain degree. However, why not not fake it and still make it? Why not take off your mask and be vulnerable and show up as yourself, so that you can signal to your subconscious thoughts and your emotions that you are enough as you are? Which brings me to the next point, and that is you cannot manifest something that you think will make you good enough. So I spoke about the worthiness wound earlier and how that comes up. So I speak about, again, sales as a spiritual journey, entrepreneurship as a spiritual journey, because I have watched it bring out. Every inner demon that you have is going to come to the surface, every doubt, fear and insecurity about whether or not you are good enough is going to come to the surface. Every doubt, fear and insecurity about whether or not you are good enough is going to come up somewhere along the journey of sales. That said, if you are trying to convince yourself that you're good enough, you are telling your subconscious that there's a possibility that you are not good enough.

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Worthiness is a human construct, and this is where I have been somewhat hesitant to share my beliefs and understandings about the story of Adam and Eve, because it directly contradicts what is commonly taught out there, but I think it is incredibly important. So it's not whether or not you believe that that actually happened in reality. It's the moral of this story, right? Jesus spoke in parables. So there are different levels of understanding, different levels of consciousness, and we all evolve in our consciousness, right? All that to say, if we're in a different place, we're going to understand something differently, right? Think about going to a school, right, that you went to when you were a kid, and how different and how much bigger it seemed when you were a kid because of where you were at as far as your size. Similar thing here with regards to consciousness, okay, so it is often taught that the original sin happened right when Eve was tempted by the serpent to eat of the apple, and then she brought the apple to Adam and then they fell from grace because they disobeyed God. Right, that's one way to read the story. Right, that's one way to read the story.

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I took a class in religious studies and I had a problem with this story because I could not understand why it was okay to punish Adam and Eve for eating of the tree of good and evil if they did not have knowledge of good and evil. Right, have knowledge of good and evil. Right. Now I understand that we as human beings may not always understand things outside of our level of understanding. That said, it is something that doesn't make sense. If you think about your children, right? If they don't have an understanding of something and you punish them for it, it's not really fair. And here's where it can become fair. So I wrote a whole paper about this.

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If you read the story more closely, you will see that it was Adam and Eve's judgment of themselves that caused them to be cast out of the garden. They were able to stay in the garden until God returned and saw that they had eaten of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, because they were hiding that which they thought made them unworthy. Nothing else had changed. They were the same before they ate of the tree and after they ate of the tree, except for their level of consciousness. And so, if you read the story, the gods decided that they could not live forever, and so they blocked them from the tree of life so that they wouldn't live forever.

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My understanding of that story is that if we live forever in judgment of ourselves, we will continue to work hard, toil, fight for limited resources, and all of it could be eradicated if we stopped judging ourselves and others. We have the power to do that. When we stop judging ourselves and others, then we are able to be fully present. I fully believe that if we quote unquote fix the worthiness wound, we could eradicate all of our problems as a society in one generation, and then we could actually focus our time and energy on solving bigger problems. Right? But instead we fight over what we think are limited resources and we judge others as the better, more worthy or less worthy than ourselves.

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If I go to someone and I ask them for something that they don't have, literally let's say that I go to my neighbor and I ask them to borrow a cup of sugar, and they don't have the cup of sugar, and they apologize and say I don't have that. I don't freak out and get angry at my neighbor. Don't freak out and get angry at my neighbor, right? I don't expect him to be able to magically create a cup of sugar for me. And yet we do this to each other all the time. We expect someone else to be able to give us what they do not have, and that is how we are able to really let go of judging. That is what forgive them, father, for they know not what they do means right, because if they are at a certain level of consciousness where they are judging themselves, where they are over-identifying with their thoughts or their emotions, then they are not showing up as who they truly are. They are essentially a prisoner to their own thoughts and emotions as well. And so when we recognize that someone cannot give us what they do not have, then we are able to stop taking it personally and forgive them.

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Now, what does all this have to do with manifestation, right? What does it have to do with the sales process? That is how we are able to embody the principles of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Those are the fruits of the spirit. That is how you are able, as a temple, as a home to spirit, that is how you are able to discern what spirit you are allowing to reside within your temple. Okay, going back to you cannot worship two masters, right? So do you want to allow the spirit of love and abundance to reside within your temple or will you choose fear? This is the work, this is the spiritual work. This is also the thing that shall set you free, because it's so very simple. Am I embodying that which I seek to have more of? Seek to have more of? This is going to require the dark night of the soul, a crisis of faith, right? So everything is essentially a choice between fear and faith, and one of my favorite songs is Car Radio by 21 Pilots. They speak about this. If you need some inspiration, go listen to that song.

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All of that to say everything is essentially a choice. And if you are choosing to align with fear, right, you are going to allow the physical things to control you. If you are choosing to align with abundance, then you're going to have to do several things. You are going to have to make choices that everyone around you is going to align with abundance. Then you're going to have to do several things. You are going to have to make choices that everyone around you is going to say are risky, irresponsible, right, because they go against the societal teachings of you must save all this money, have the 401k, have the Roth IRA, like all these things. You have to have all of these things in order to be happy, successful, stable.

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All the things right. If you want to live in alignment with abundance, it is knowing that no person, place or thing is the source of your abundance. That's freedom. That is the lesson that I faced when I decided earlier this year that I was going to manifest my version of heaven on earth reality. It was an okay, are you sure? Because you are going to have to face the fears that are still in your shadow, that you are not aware of. I had to surrender and let go of the things that I thought made me who I was. I had to face hell, literally, and I'll tell you that story in the next episode. It is a longer story and it goes a bit deeper into the closets that I have.

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That said, it's really about freedom and sovereignty. When you are free, you are able to fully be present and enjoy the things that you do have. Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and all these things shall be added unto you. That's what that means, and I already knew this intellectually right. I wasn't aware that I wasn't fully embodying that truth. I also knew that the kingdom of heaven is through the eyes of a child. The way I read that is. It's about imagination and non-judgment, because that's what children are. They're free. Because that's what children are, they're free. They're free from judgment of themselves and they also believe in magic, in miracles, in their happily ever after.

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But something happens when we reach puberty. We start worrying more about what other people think of us and we start judging ourselves as unworthy. And we begin to forget what it felt like to be free, what it felt like to believe in our dreams, and we started listening to the rules of the world. And that is the fall from grace. And the only way back is to release judgment of ourselves and others. So, moral of the story if you want to shift where you are right now, if you want to attract more things that feel abundant to you, then you must embody abundance.

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And if you're feeling afraid of letting go, if you're feeling sad, depressed, angry, the miracle is a shift in your heart. It's a change of heart, it's a shift in perspective. It can happen as quickly as an optical illusion can transform right in front of you. If you stand in front of an optical illusion and you stay where you're at and you keep thinking I wish it would change, and you keep trying to change how you think about it and change how you feel about it, it's not going to change because you're in the same perspective as you were. It's the slightest shift, it is the slightest elevation in frequency. That is what transforms everything. It's also recognizing how much your projections on others, the meaning of the stories that you create about others, how powerful those are as well. That's another concept and story for another episode. All of that to say. Well, that's another concept and story for another episode. All of that to say.

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If you are feeling fear, it can be as simple as asking right. Ask and ye shall receive. It's a prayer. And for those of you who have been triggered or traumatized by religious dogma or doctrine, I feel you, I feel your pain, and I will be explaining more about that when I tell my story in the next episode. All of that to say ask. You can use the word God, you can use the word Allah, jehovah, elohim, universe. Fill in the blanks with whatever resonates with you most, in the blanks with whatever resonates with you most.

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Ask that thing that you think of when you think of divine. And if you don't believe in any of that, that's also okay, because you can ask love. If you are feeling like resistance around that, then your heart is hard, and I've been there as well. Ask for that to be softened. Ask for a sign, ask for a synchronicity to show you that you are not alone. You're never alone. You are never alone and everything and I mean everything, I mean everything in your life can transform in an instant. A miracle needs a storm right. A rainbow needs the rain. Okay, ask. And the way I would ask if you are curious is, I would say Spirit of love and light, please connect to me and move through me and show me what it is that I need to see to align with my highest self. Please show me that I am not alone. Please show me my divinity. Please give me hope. Please help me to see what it is that I need to see to return to love. Amen, All right.

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So that is today's episode. As always, please feel free to send me any messages, any questions, anything that you would like to share. You can email us directly at hello, goodbye at dubcobcom. That's H-E-L-L-O-G-O-O-D-B-Y-E at dubcobcom and, as you will soon, if you listen to the next episode, discover, I am doing something completely different with regards to my work in sales, the spiritual art of sales, I am offering several things that I've never offered before at investment levels that I have never offered, and there is a deeper reason. That said, if you're interested in that, please listen to the end of the show.

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I will be telling you a bit more. Otherwise, I'm sending you all of my love and please remember that you are indeed a spiritual being having a physical experience. You are infinitely loved and supported by the entire cosmos to collapsing timelines and co-creating your version of happily ever after, no matter what, because the odds may be stacked against you, but you are in luck. Said 2024 was a shit show, let's just be completely honest and I took off three months. Now it's time to put the pedal to the metal. So I have created three new ways to work together at a fraction of the typical investment. But I only have a few spots open. So if you are interested at all, go to debcobcom slash call or debcobcom Click on contact, scroll down to book a call and click on the spiritual sales alignment audit. I promise you I will not pull any manipulative sales tactics in order to get you to work with me. All right. Thank you again for listening and I hope to hear from you soon. Bye-bye.

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